January – Day 29/31

Yesterday we spoke about gratitude and how showing thanks for the things you have can help improve your happiness and well-being. Today I would like to touch on affirmations.

To some this one might come across as a little bit “woo-woo” or a bit “spiritual” but I believe that talking yourself up can dramatically improve your thought process and how you feel about yourself in the long term.

It takes practice and it takes time.

What are affirmations?

Affirmations are positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When you repeat them often, and believe in them, you can start to make positive changes.

How do you start using affirmations?

You can use positive affirmations in any situation where you would like to see positive change in your life. This could be anything from self-esteem to confidence at work, to finishing projects or overcoming bad habits. If you know there is an area of your life you negatively towards, try turning it around with the use of positive affirmations.

Picture the change you would like to see – really visualise it.

Say it out loud – repeat it to yourself a number of times until it becomes easier to say and you believe it.

Write it down – set your goal and write down your affirmation to accompany it, this can help massively in you actually achieving your desired goals.

Ideally you need to be practising your affirmations regularly, repeating them to yourself throughout the day and repeating them to yourself whenever you feel the negative thought or behaviour you want to overcome.

What is the first thing you would like to work on with positive affirmations? Get it written down, set your goal, know your affirmation and begin practising today. You can do it.

January – Day 28/31

Are you thankful for what you have? Do you show thanks on a daily basis for even the little things in your life?

Practising gratitude is a great way to shift your focus from one that’s potentially a little negative to one that’s more positive. Being thankful for little things, like just being able to have a cup of tea when you want one, for the roof over your head, for the people in your life, or that you can eat today are big things to think about. You are so much more blessed that you even realise.

Personally, I like to start my day by writing down three things I am grateful for. It was difficult at first but you soon realise that there are many blessings all around you. Once you start this practice, it gets easier and easier over time as you become more open to showing your thanks.

There’s even been some research done to show the benefits of showing gratitude which include:

  • opening the door to more relationships – showing appreciation can help with new friends and old.
  • improved physical health – people who are grateful report fewer aches and pains.
  • imported psychological health – showing gratitude reduces envy and resentment, to frustration and stress.
  • enhanced empathy and reduced aggression – people who show gratitude are more likely to behave in a more social manner, even when others are behaving in a less kind way.
  • improved sleep – grateful people sleep better. Try spending 15 minutes before bed writing down all the things you are grateful for.
  • improved self-esteem – linked with becoming less envious and resentful, showing gratitude actually helps people feel happier for others.
  • increased mental strength – showing gratitude reduces stress and helps overcome trauma; recognising all that you are thankful for, especially during the worst times in your life, fosters resilience.

From the points above you can probably gauge that it’s not just about writing things down. It’s about showing gratitude to others. Be kind. Be polite. Say thank you and express what you are actually thankful. “Thank you for your help today, I appreciate it because….”.

What are you thankful for right now. Write it down or tell someone. It feels good.